One of the best skills an individual can have is the ability to
have a cool, relaxed attitude in the heat of the moment. People who
are successful in their career, business and personal relationships
are resilient to stressful events. People who enjoy good mental health
are mentally resilient because their mind is able to handle the stress
we all naturally experience.
There is a lot more to being resilient than just being the strong
silent type. There seems to be a common perception of people who are
resilient, are emotionally detached. It's not that people who are
resilient are unemotional. What they are able to do is mastering
their mind so their impulses can be conquered. People who are
resilient tend to remain calm and don't react violently with anger,
tears or fear.They are very good at controlling their emotions.
You will be better equipped to cope if you learn how to keep yourself
physically calm.
There are many techniques on how to control your heart rate and breathing
but the first step to developing your mind to being more resilient
is by learning how to control your physical reaction to a particular
event. More advanced methods such as Tai Chi or Yoga are great exercises
for stimulating the mind and body. These forms are fantastic for
developing mastery over physical condition. This is n't for everone
though and fortunately not essential as there are many other resources
available that can teach you about breathing techniques from the internet
or your local library.
Hardship can be a personal issue for many people. Impulsive behavior
anxiety and stress usually stems from being unable to deal with the
difficulties of life. Resiliant people face their problem head on working
out what needs to be done now, get over what's happened to them and
don't dwell on issues or see themselves as a victim.
It's quite important to talk to people and look to take practical steps
like joining support groups and move on to problem solving as quickly
as possible. Showing sympathy can feel good and this can be tempting
to be a victim by telling people your troubles, but it's more constructive
in the long run by problem solving.
Many people survive troubled childhoods or families and have gone on
to having very successful lives. A lifetime of problems shouldn't be
condemned from all these bad events in the past. The majority of
people whos parents were alcoholics do not copy their drinking habits and
the same is true of adults who have survived families with poverty,
racial discrimination, mental illness and marital problems. Many people
rebound from this troubled past with their self esteem intact. Talking
to a therapist can help you if you need it now you are an adult.
Rather than getting miserable and upset about the injustice of an event,
if you have gone through personal problems, be pleased that you can
stand tall and proud. Something bad happened and you are still here
surviving. Try and look deep into how you responded that you can be
proud of, build your self esteem and find your strengths from that
achievement.
Distinguishing between suffering from clinical depression and feeling
low is important. We all experience feelings of being down or low
on occasions. It's a frequent response to difficult situations or sad
events. Depression is when these feelings are so strong and persistent
that you are prevented from doing what you normally do.
Depression is not just a feeling of feeling low or down. It's an illness
that needs to be treated. If you are experiencing feelings of depression
then you are only down temporarily rather than it affecting people
for weeks, months and years. They can be so intense that normal life
is severely affected. You can't work normally, enjoy being with your
friends and family plus all the other things you do.
If you are depressed, you may feel hopeless, worthless and always tired.
In many cases, if your depression is quite mild, normal life can
just about continue but everyday tasks will be more difficult. If you
suffer from severe depression, your feelings could be so unbearable that
you could start thinking about suicide.
If you've had depression or anxiety before it is very important to seek
help even if you were n't formally diagnosed. You're more
likely to have an episode of depression if you've had one before. Your mental
health is just as important as your physical health and although can
be percieved as being a bit daft, try changing your whole outlook on
life and try and have a positive state of mind and doing this everyday will
slowly but surely begin to help your situation. Good luck.
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